THE NEW FORMS OF FAMILY

THE NEW FORMS OF FAMILY

The world is changing. Little by little, the structures that we previously conceived as immovable give way to new ways of thinking and living, which adapt to our reality and modern paradigms. Such is the case of the traditional family concept, which today translates into a completely different version.

Before talking about how family is defined today, let’s think about how it was defined until a few years ago: mom, dad, children and, if anything, a pet. This model was the only socially accepted one, and everything that departed from this was irregular and even bad.

Today, with a little more social maturity, we understand that the family comes in many shapes and sizes. Single parents, divided households (either by choice or as a result of divorce), DINKS, xnxx, etc.

 

WHAT CHANGED?

First things first: one of the reasons why the concept of family changed comes from a change in its social function. A change that has been so slow and progressive over time that it is barely perceptible. Previously, the function of the family was the reproduction and permanence of the lineage. It depends on the time, we are talking about a surname, a skin color or a historical legacy.

However, currently, the function of the family is to be an emotional unit, where sentimental ties are the key to permanence over time.

Under this logic, it is understandable that the modern family puts sentimental happiness above the social structure and effective reproduction, for example, giving space to family structures that are born from homosexual couples not capable of reproducing on their own.

 

THE FAMILY IS NO LONGER PERMANENT

Let us also remember that traditional family concepts were built in societies where people lived statistically much less than now. Medical advances and its extension of the average life make anyone doubt a “Happily ever after”.

So when you think about marriage, even subconsciously, it’s not seen as a definite and permanent point. But, rather, as a current commitment that may or may not change over time. Hence, the fact that prenuptial agreements and other legal clauses that protect the parties in the event of a breakup of the union are very common today.

According to psychology, we no longer necessarily speak of “family” in the singular. But of, on the other hand, “family trajectories”. States that have a beginning and possibly an end because, once again, the family is conditioned by affection. An affection that may or may not last over time.

In a few words, and without so many technicalities, the big difference lies in the freedom to choose and in the search for personal and sentimental satisfaction.

 

THE MODEL FAMILY NO LONGER EXISTS

In the same way that today we say “The perfect life does not exist”, it also applies to the construction of the family. There is no longer a perfect formula or structure of how it should look or function correctly, because the only premise is individual and collective happiness.

The “Mom+Dad+Son” construction today is nothing more than a crude cliché, where before each member occupied a predesigned role. It may sound simplistic, but the basic premise of this whole thing is easily summed up in a couple of words: Do what makes you happy.

 

 

Collection of poems about family, love and women

Courage
My life has changed since I found me
A new life begun at a turning point
Time to move forward to see what the fates
Held in store for my life.
I learned to grow meant to take a chance
Find a dream that had yet to be born
Learn to stand on my own feet
Amazed at how strong I truly am.
Found the courage to change my life
Live the dream that has been bottled up inside
Take the chance to experience love again
In the arms of a generous, loving man.
Time has passed and I have learned much
Never to forget to trust my instincts
The little voice we have inside us is never wrong
Love led me to where my heart belongs.

Copyright 2002 Becca Kauffman

I Disguise My Pain
It’s dark and lonely. I’m sad and scared.
Everyday the same, and getting nowhere.
I miss the life that I had, the friends and strong will.
Maybe I’ve been wrong. And this is the real deal.
I know there are others, who are in worse shape than me.
But that doesn’t help me none, when it’s my face I see.
On the other side of that mirror, with tears down my face.
Only God would make it better, or take me out of this place.
I disguise my pain, so I understand your suprise
But if you look close, you could see it in my eyes.
I laugh at your jokes, and at times sing you a song.
I wipe away your tears, and tell you that you’re wrong.
You say that life is bad, I’m there to assure you it will be alright.
Inside I’m trying to believe that, truly with all of my might.
I wake each day, for one reason alone.
Though I slowly feel like I’m turning to stone.
I guess we all feel this way, every now and again.
I just wish that my dying inside would come to the end.
I disguise my pain, so I understand your suprise.
But if you look close, you could see it in my eyes.

Anonimous
I Disguise My Pain

It’s dark and lonely.  I’m sad and scared.
Everyday the same, and getting nowhere.
I miss the life that I had, the friends and strong will.
Maybe I’ve been wrong. And this is the real deal.

I know there are others, who are in worse shape than me.
But that doesn’t help me none, when it’s my face I see.
On the other side of that mirror, with tears down my face.
Only God would make it better, or take me out of this place.

I disquise my pain, so I understand your suprise
But if you look close, you could see it in my eyes.

I laugh at your jokes, and at times sing you a song.
I wipe away your tears, and tell you that you’re wrong.
You say that life is bad, I’m there to assure you it will be alright.
Inside I’m trying to believe that, truly with all of my might.

I wake each day, for one reason alone.
Though I slowly feel like I’m turning to stone.
I guess we all feel this way, every now and again.
I just wish that my dying inside would come to the end.

I disguise my pain, so I understand your suprise.
But if you look close, you could see it in my eyes.